Friday, November 06, 2009

Lesson learned

Make no mistake about it, people, parenting is a job. It is a job without monetary benefits, without promotion, and without free perks. If you thought that your life's purpose was to have children, raise children and have those children appreciate the job you did, then you will end up a sad shell of a human being. Unsolicited praise from my kids is very rare and when it does happen, I feel all giddy like a kid on Christmas morning. If there is one thing I have learned as a parent, it is never to look to my kids for any kind of validation of my worth. Here's my most recent example.

I volunteered to bring in a Halloween snack for Shepard's kindergarten class. I decided to go all out--I made bloodshot monster eyeball cupcakes, square pretzels half dipped in chocolate and black and orange sprinkles, and string cheese cut into the shape of a creepy finger with a slice of grape for the fingernail. It took me most of the evening before and the morning of snack day to complete the food. On snack day, I personally delivered the snacks to his class and helped the teacher serve them on carefully chosen Halloween napkins.

That afternoon when Shepard arrived home I asked him, "Shepard, did you like the Halloween snacks I brought to your class?" He replied, "No, it was yucky. I didn't eat it." Shepard is an extremely picky eater and if things look the least bit different he refuses to try it. However, I had worked so hard and I felt really down about it. Alan had a talk with him that evening and told him, "Shepard, you really hurt Mommy's feelings. You should apologize to her."

So the next day, Shepard came up to me, took my hand as he looked me in the eyes, and said, "Mommy, I am sorry your snacks were yucky."


Clippy Mat said...

the sensitive little soul.

C said...

awwww i know you dont feel appreciated now but when they are grown, they will look back and realize how great a mom you were [are]. your little darling shepard is so sweet the way he apologized. try not to take it personally honey, they love you more than words can say. whatta super mommy you are, those snacks sound delishously scary. oh. maybe shepard didnt like the snacks but did you ask him if the others liked them? i'll bet they did and i'll bet they think his mom is the coolest most bestest mom evah!



Anonymous said...

Well, you suck at snacks. But there are other things I'm sure you are good at. Those are terrific snacks for an older set. They sound good. My kinder teaching-Ph.D.-wife has to do the snacks all the time in her class. It's like feeding people with severe stomach problems, bland, bland, bland. Thing is, you did a great job of trying. I appreciate it.

Organic Meatbag said... time, tell him that his latest finger painting looks like a pile of puke...

melymelm said...

hahahahahahahaha. oh little shepard!

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